Moondala: Living in Rhythm with the Female Body

“The foundation of the feminine spiritual path is the relationship with one’s cycle—caring for it, understanding it, and consciously cooperating with the energies moving within it.”

Hello Beautiful Souls,

I’ve been writing a lot lately, but here I posted less and less. The good news is that beginning of this year I have started a Substack where you can read an inspirational piece every “moonday.” In my latest post, someone asked me to share more about cyclical planning.

So here’s a resource to help you begin your discovery.

Since preparing for having a child, the importance of planning in alignment with cycles has supported me in approaching my daily tasks with more elegance. One of the greatest benefits of cyclical planning is that it tunes you into the true rhythm of life—something the female body is naturally much more receptive to than linear, calendar-based planning.

It’s important to understand that countless cycles can influence the harmonious functioning of our bodies—from micro- to macro-cycles. The more one understands and experiences these, the more precisely and sensitively one can fine-tune and align with them.

As a first step, it’s important to observe where you live. What natural cycles surround you—where are you physically? Are the changing seasons part of your life? Personally, I align with the four seasons.

The second step is to observe and become aware of where you are in your own life. I would highlight three stages:

  • the years before the fertile period (from girlhood to first menstruation / maiden),
  • the fertile period (the menstruating years / mother),
  • and the time after the fertile period (crone).

During the first and third stages, it’s worth aligning with the “outer moon” (the visible moon in the sky), while in the middle stage it’s more useful to adapt to your own cycle and observe its characteristics.

We can divide our cycle into 2, 4, 5, or even 6 phases.
Cyclical planning begins by observing two key phases: the phase of rising energy and the phase of quieting energy (2 phases). In terms of lunar phases, this corresponds to:

  • rising energy (from new moon to after full moon),
  • decreasing energy (from after full moon to new moon).

Of course, as mentioned earlier, many micro-cycles also influence us, so within a single day you may experience both increases and decreases in energy.

It’s also important to recognize that if you’ve been adapting to a calendar-based cycle since childhood, or living a lifestyle that ignores your body’s natural preferences (working when tired, not resting when your body needs it), you may have placed your body under the control of your intellect and become disconnected from your body’s wisdom. In this case, you might experience:

  • menstrual irregularities
  • frustration or extreme emotions
  • difficulty creating
  • loss of inner integrity (between your “light” and “dark” sides)
  • masculinization (rejection or suppression of femininity)
  • female functional disorders (PMS, cycle irregularities)
  • gynecological conditions (polyps, fibroids, endometriosis, etc.)

Even in this case, there’s no reason to panic. You are here now, gaining this knowledge—so you have the opportunity to change.

In my therapeutic work and introductory courses, I work with the following phases of the cycle:

  • Turning inward – menstruation days (1–5/7 days)
  • Awakening feminine power – post-menstruation to ovulation (3–10/14 days)
  • Tuning into and experiencing creative energy – ovulation (10/14–14/16 days)
  • Gradual withdrawal and quieting – from post-ovulation high-energy days until menstruation begins (14/16–25/29 days)
  • Pre-menstrual days (25–28/32 days)

(The duration of each phase can vary depending on cycle length.)

Some women’s cycles align with the lunar cycle—menstruating at new moon and ovulating at full moon. For others, it may be reversed or entirely different. While the lunar cycle is about 28 days, the female cycle can range from 25 to 35 days.

Understanding and applying this comes through consistent self-awareness and observation, as every body is different.

I personally love creating a so-called “Moondala,” where I track lunar phases, my own cycle, and note my emotional, mental, and physical states for each day. After about three months, you can begin to observe energy patterns—when you are at your strongest, more sensitive, or mentally sharp.

Of course, we are not machines. Observing energy patterns can be influenced by life events and environment (weather, family, work, etc.).

So start by observing the moon in the sky (you might use a lunar calendar) and write down daily how you feel. Use colors or emojis. Keep it simple. Make it playful, and be prepared that answers won’t come immediately.

I suggest tracking:

  • your energy (physical body: M = medium, H = high, L = low)
  • your emotional states (sad, happy, angry, etc.)
  • your mental state (clarity, dullness, etc.)

With greater self-awareness comes greater freedom.

Calendar planning:

  • New moon: journal about what you are releasing and what you are keeping (habits, routines, tasks) + keep a dream journal
  • Rising energy phase: list, prioritize, mind-map what you want to accomplish in this lunar month
  • Full moon: time for celebration—celebrate successes, practice gratitude journaling
  • Waning phase: finish tasks

In practice, this might mean consciously scheduling activities you can control so that most demanding tasks fall into the rising energy phase (e.g., dentist appointments, important meetings, high-energy visits), while nurturing activities fall into the waning phase (e.g., hairdresser, time with close friends, restorative activities). If you exercise, you can align that too—running during rising energy, walking during the waning phase.

If you practice yoga, then do Vinnyasa/Ashtanga Yoga around rising energy phase and Hatha/Restorative /Sangraha Yoga around waning phase. You can play with the breathing pattern you use, and the fastness of the movements.

You can also adjust your personal approach to tasks: during rising energy, you may accomplish more in a day; during the waning phase, you may do less and need more rest.

Observe yourself and your body’s needs. All the answers are already within you.

Sat Nam,

Viki

I used to teach this course in Hungarian, and I’m now planning to offer it in English. If there’s enough interest, I’d love to run a course on this.

Would you be interested?

Rushing Calmly

There is something I would like to share with you – something very personal, and perhaps also perspective-shifting.

It’s about urgency – and about what becomes possible when we begin to step out of it.

I don’t mean ignoring responsibilities. I mean stepping out of the constant rush… out of the pressure to hold everything together… out of the compulsion to fix, prove, or achieve in a hurry before even taking a breath.

I once heard the Dalai Lama speak about how it’s possible to rush while remaining completely calm. This teaching stayed with me, because when I first heard it, it really upset me! I felt angry and flustrated, and thought this is just impossible!

But then I discovered Sarah Tacy Tangredi – with whom I’ve been studying Nervous System Harmonization since 2023 – and I experienced that it truly is possible to “rush calmly.

Now she has created a free 3-day workshop titled Opting Out Of Urgency. It will take place on September 16, 18, and 19, 2025, from 12:00-1:30pm EST! It is grounded in science, honors the soul, and focuses on re-patterning the nervous system.

I would now like to invite you to this program as well! Let me tell you why!

Urgency narrows our perspective. It convinces our body that there is no time, no choice, no way to slow down. It feels real – because once, it really did keep us safe. But it is no longer the only way.

From this pause, our capacity to feel returns. Real choice returns. Clarity returns.

And most surprisingly: you return – to your own rhythm, to your own life force.

I myself have felt this sense of urgency in these September days, as my daughter started school. It’s a huge transition for us after pre-school, and often I catch myself feeling compelled to rush her, to hurry her in the mornings as we get ready.

Then I slow down, and I notice that this is an old program – one I also inherited. The study of the nervous system, and the ability to read and harmonize it, is also part of my programs also.

My Autumn program has already begun. But you don’t need to feel rushed, because there is always another opportunity waiting for you!

Opting Out of Urgency Workshop content:

🌿 Day 1: Where choice lives – Reclaiming space and pace between impulse and action.

🌿 Day 2: Sacred third – Finding new possibilities beyond “either–or” thinking.

🌿 Day 3: Relational health – Healing what urgency has shaped in the way we connect with others.

This is not about performance. It is about coming home to our feminine essence.

👉 You can register here

Expect gentle daily practices, live guidance, and insights that will stay with you for a long time. And all of this completely free!

Maybe you’re not as “sensitive” as you thought.

Maybe you’re simply ready for a new path.

It begins here.

Join us as we explore the idea of “rushing calmly” and cultivate the superpower of moving beyond urgency.

Dare to step in!

Sat Nam

Viki

How could you know that you’re healing?

How do I know if I am healing? How can I truly tell whether I am walking the right path?

These questions return to me again and again.

I’ve spent much of my life concerned with how I use my time, wary of filling it with knowledge or pursuits that might not carry true meaning for me.

In my twenties, I felt a strong pull toward Western Astrology, and for a year I immersed myself in it—yet I did not continue. Years before, I had the urge to play an instrument. I studied violin for two years, then set it down. There are other examples, but what I wish to share is this: it may not make sense in the moment, it may appear to be failure or a false start—but with time, the bigger picture begins to reveal itself. Slowly, the pieces find their place.

When we look back, so much of what we call “success” or “failure” depends entirely on the perspective from which we see.

Just yesterday, I felt myself exactly where I wanted to be. My daughter was in the middle of a storm over her clothing, and instead of being swept into it, I chose silence. By staying quiet, I shifted the momentum of that moment. And in the space I left, her father stepped forward—calm, steady, grounded. My silence gave him room, and his presence gave me a renewal on my perspective.

It wasn’t the first time he has reminded me of what truly matters in the midst of chaos. This is why I find this moment so significant for me and for us as a family.

When one of us falters and the other holds steady—offering space, compassion, and connection instead of fear or control—something sacred opens. This is not about striving toward some final destination, some perfected self. Healing isn’t a straight path of improvement. There will always be new opportunities to soften, to expand, to deepen.

The heart of healing is learning to embody your truest self without shame. It’s arriving at a place where you see that nothing is broken, nothing needs fixing—only unfolding. And in that recognition, you can finally rest. Rest in what is. Rest in who you are. Rest in the presence of those around you.

From there, the world comes alive again. You begin to sense, to see, to touch life with beginner’s eyes—with the wonder of a child. You notice beauty even in difficulty, because you begin to recognize the hidden gifts of your shadows. You see that your fears and frustrations are not flaws, but echoes etched into your nervous system long ago—waiting to be unlocked, witnessed, and released.

The knowledge of the nervous system is simple to find. A quick search can give you the concepts. But the true work—the art—is in living it, in practicing it, in applying it in the heat of the moment.

This is why I love sitting with kindred souls, learning together, sharing tools that shape not just our own lives but the lives of our children. For if we care enough to learn, to heal, to soften, then what we pass on to them is no longer our unhealed weight, but our wisdom. This is the inheritance I wish to offer my daughter: a way of living, a set of tools, a deep knowing that emotional freedom is possible.

And if your heart longs for this kind of learning, for the nourishment of these good vibrations, then you are already on the path.

Come, to join us through a 3 day long free workshop, which will be in 2025. September 16, 18, 19. 12:00-1:30pm EST which is called Opting Out Of Urgency and my friend and mentor Sarah Tacy holds.

👉 Sign Up Here

Now is the moment to answer the whisper of your soul, the call that longs for healing!

I hope you’ll join us.

Be curious!

Sat Nam,

Viki

A seed in the soil

I was playing with the words above as I have been looking for an answer to the question of “How can I carry all that I wanna say?”

Poems are the language of the soul, and the wisdom traditions remind us that the soul is eternal. If that is true, then everything I have forgotten is encoded within me. Lately, I’ve been exploring my birth chart through Western Astrology, Human Design, and the Gene Keys, and the clarity these systems bring has truly blown my mind. I try to take it step by step, even though part of me longs to understand it all at once.

Somatic writing—the modality I will soon introduce—helps me ground myself and reconnect with the present moment.

Another ally in stabilizing myself is Sarah Tacy’s work, which I highly recommend to anyone seeking a gentle approach to nervous system healing. Her unique perspective on challenging topics like trauma offers deep healing through a profoundly nurturing approach.

Come, to meet her through a 3 day long free workshop, which will be in 2025. September 16, 18, 19. 12:00-1:30pm EST which is called Opting Out Of Urgency.

A call, an idea, a wisdom just what I need! How about you? Are you commin’?

👉 Sign Up Here

Now is the place where you could find your strengh!

I hope you’ll join us.

Be brave!

Sat Nam,

Viki